Amish dating and sexuality
It is not clear to me what traditions these new communities have started around courtship.
But to my knowledge, none of them include the “benign kind of date in mainstream American culture” of going out to dinner together.
There is thus a strong commitment to marrying within the church, although females tend to move outside the district since males usually inherit the family farm.
Despite the fact that mate choice is limited to other church members, the young people do not necessarily choose to marry close relatives.
Courtship tends to be a private matter prior to the wedding announcement by the minister.
I delight in talking about sexuality, engaging sexually with my spouse, reading about sexuality, and walking alongside students as they come to grips with their own sexual identities, passions and convictions.
Amish communities are not centrally governed so each group comes up with their own version of the rule.
There are two types of Ordnung – those determined in the early history of the religion by conferences (these are usually written down rules) and those passed verbally within each group.
The practice has died out in most of the world (it was practiced by some non-Amish too) but in the Pennsylvania Amish communities it is still to be found.
In some cases in the past (though perhaps not now) the girl was tied into a sack and her potential husband would lie in bed with her.