Attraction and christian dating
The world tells us that the way to know whether two people are "right for each other" is to measure the white-hot physical attraction between the two, combined with the idea of "chemistry" on steroids — their ability to effortlessly have day-long conversations anytime about anything, punctuated by the quick, witty exchanges found mostly in edgy independent comedies.
In our culture — and in many churches — "attraction," whether purely physical or "chemistry-related," is considered the foundational way to evaluate a potential marriage relationship.
From the articles I've read on Boundless, I'm sure you would assure me that he's a catch.
I still don't have peace about marrying him, and I think it's due to a lack of attraction to him physically and emotionally.
His good qualities are dwarfed by the things I find annoying or even embarrassing, and I'm way more attracted to other guys physically.
We broke up for over six months while I wrestled with this issue in my heart, and I thought I had finally become content enough with his looks and personality to continue on with the relationship, but right after he proposed, the doubts appeared again, and I almost gave the ring back.
I know you say that attraction isn't everything, and I definitely agree. In a day where the age of first marriage keeps getting older, it's understandable that people in your life would encourage you to consider, and then marry, a man they perceive to be such a good catch.