Dating daddy issues
A few months ago, I was talking to my friend David Kessler, telling him that I couldn’t believe how a particular person in my life knew what buttons to push that would drive me over the edge. of relationship with your Father or a significant male figure from your childhood.“How do they know how to get under my skin and push my buttons? “It’s not who pushes your buttons, it’s who programmed you.” A Light-Bulb-Moment-WHOA-“aha! Since it’s Father’s Day today, this whole week I’ve been thinking about my own daddy issues, how they’ve affected me, why they’ve haunted me for so long and really, why the hell I even had such deep daddy issues in the first place when I have a Dad that’s consistently been nothing short of amazing. This becomes an addictive pattern because it creates this feeling of comfort due to the familiarity but also creates a perpetual underlying feeling of dis-ease in your relationships.So every time I saw my Dad, he was just trying to make the most out of the day and as great as that was, it disallowed a certain realness and connectivity that would have been there if I was able to see him and live with him on a daily basis.
Related: 7 Times A Man's Anger Is Actually A Cry For Help 2.You then become the girl that doesn’t feel like it’s the “right” relationship unless you’re feeling insecure and like you have something to “chase after” and “prove.” You gravitate toward relationsh*ts that “keep you on your toes,” instead of relationships that are mutual and genuinely connected.(I’ve exemplified each one of these at one time or another in my life) My parents got divorced when I was very young and the time that I was able to spend with my Father was subsequently minimized. For a while now, I’ve wanted to post a photo of my parents and title the blog post “A Photo of Everyone I’ve Ever Dated.” I’m not sure about that exact approach, but I’m definitely going to write a post about dating versions of our parents soon because it’s one of those things where once you make the connection, your life changes.You stop negative patterns right in their tracks because you immediately know better.